The Thinking Woman’s Therapist
Founder & Director, Four Corners Counseling & Wellbeing

I love helping women discover their best selves.

I am passionate about the idea that we are on a spiritual journey and that life is about learning and growing and expanding -- and I am also passionately sympathetic about how hard it can be to be human!

While In graduate school, I had my first encounter with depression and anxiety. I saw a psychiatrist for the first time, learned to manage my moods and to be in a committed relationship. By the time I finished school, I knew I wanted to help others, especially women and couples, deal with issues similar to those I had struggled with.

After over a decade of practice, I have developed expertise in mood disorders, interpersonal trauma and PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder); stressful life transitions & major life events; as well as addiction recovery, adult ADD, and couples therapy.

I practice out of a strengths-based, mindfulness model of therapy called Internal Family Systems (IFS), the fastest growing therapy model in the U.S.   I am a speaker, writer and teacher on the model, and I offer that expertise to my clients.  I love to see the transformation that occurs when clients begin to their life skills from a compassionate "self-led" space.  And I love to help clients integrate whole-hearted, wise and spiritual approaches into real life. I'm thrilled to have the practice of my dreams where I can offer you the help you need and deserve.

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+ Education

Master of Arts in Social Service Administration, University of Chicago, School of Social Service Administration 2002, Chicago, IL.

Master of Arts in Theology, Lutheran School of Theology at Chicago, 2003, Chicago, IL.

Bachelor of Arts, Susquehanna University, Selinsgrove, PA. Summa cum Laude


+ Professional Credentials & Affiliations

Maryland Clinical Social Worker (LCSW-C), license #13262
Certified IFS (Internal Family Therapist), June 2015
Greater Washington Society of Clinical Social Workers (GWSCSW), member
DC Therapist Connect, member; W.I.N.C. Women’s Business Network, member
Volunteer Clinician, Pro Bono Counseling Project, Baltimore, MD


+ Workshops, Presentations & Publications (selected list)

“Confessions of a Reluctant Meditator: Overcoming your Resistance with Mindfulness Meditation.” Article in Natural Awakenings magazine, Washington, DC edition, December 2015.

“Internal Family Systems: A Primer.” Greater Washington Society for Clinical Social Workers, Bethesda, MD, November 2015.

“Internal Family Systems: A Modern Tool for Transformation.” Keynote speaker, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselors of Maryland annual conference, Columbia Maryland, October 2015.

"Internal Family Systems therapy for Trauma Treatment."  Guest Lecturer, George Mason School of Social Work, Fairfax, VA, April 2015.

“Assessing and Treating Depression in Home Health Patients.” Adventist Home Health, Rockville and Silver Spring, MD, October 2014.

 “Living with Integrity.” Bi-weekly workshop, July-December 2012, SLI, Silver Spring, MD.

 “Strengthening Your Spirit.”  Reconnection & Revitalization: Mind/Body/Spirit Workshops for People Living with Cancer series, GWU Hospital, March 8, 2011, Washington, DC.


+ Post-Graduate Clinical Training (selected list)

Internal Family Systems (Individual Therapy). Level 3 certification training. November 2015. Levels 1 and  2 certification trainings. The Center for Self Leadership.  November 2011 – October 2012; March 2014.

Intimacy from the Inside Out (Couples Therapy).  Basic Certificate Training.  Toni Herbine-Blank, The Center for Self Leadership.  Potomac, MD, Dec. 2014 and Feb. 2015. 

Spirituality in Clinical Practice Certificate Program at Catholic University, 2008-09, and Monthly Group, Kathie Hart, LCSW-C, facilitator. Takoma Park, MD, 2009 – 2015. 

Basic EMDR Training. (Trauma Therapy).  EMDR of Greater Washington, DC.  Fall 2013.  

Externship, Emotionally Focused Therapy (Couples). MD Center for EFT, March 2009.

Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) for Health Professionals. Jon Kabat-Zinn and Saki Santorelli, U Mass Center for Mindfulness, February 24 – March 2, 2008.

Advanced Trauma Treatment.  Bessel Van der Kolk, M.D., FACES Conference, DC, May 2006.


Hetty Irmer, LCSW-C - Four Corners Counseling and Wellbeing
It’s wonderful how we get so much accomplished each week in here, and it’s not just therapy. It’s everything I want to talk about. It feels so good.
— Beth, age 32
You are challenging and inviting at the same time.
— Jim, age 45