A time to float

A time to float

A wise woman asked me this week: “Do you feel like you have arrived? Or are you still crossing the threshold?” She was referring to more than a year of my actively pushing through some major life events, including expanding my private practice, finalizing a divorce, and organizing a move, while caring for my daughter (and my senior dog!) through it all.
 

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We were made for these times

We were made for these times

There is a lot of uncertainty in our world right now. I am keenly aware of a feeling of insecurity both within myself and in those around me. How do we make sense of the changes in our nation’s political and economic landscape? And how might they impact our daily lives? We just don’t know. Not to mention the unknown impacts of changes, often unbidden, in our work and personal lives. That not knowing can be difficult to tolerate. But what if we are up to the task of tolerating all of this uncertainty and not-knowingness?

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Capsized!

Capsized!

Have you ever felt “capsized” by an event or situation in your life? 

Using the metaphor of being the captain of your ship on the ocean of life: perhaps it feels as if you are sailing along, and a huge wave comes and overtakes you. Something unexpected and completely overwhelming occurs, for a few hours or even a few days. We don’t understand what just happened — we couldn’t anticipate it and it wasn’t supposed to happen, just like ships aren’t supposed to capsize. But it did happen. Perhaps we get upsetting news, or we have a conflict or big misunderstanding with someone, and we are completely thrown off. We are in the midst of a storm, externally, and then often internally. What do we do?

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You are of Great Worth!

You are of Great Worth!

One morning last week as I was walking into my office, I noticed trash on the front lawn. 

This is not that unusual, since the office is at the corner of a busy street.  I went to collect the trash and saw what seemed to be the contents of a glove compartment “emergency kit” — a bag of mixed nuts, hand warmers, wet wipes, a pack of gum, a roll of breath mints, and a packet of fruit gummy snacks — all strewn about near an opened ziplock bag.  Nestled among these items was a clean, crisp 3x5 card with these words written in bold marker on one side: You are of Great Worth!  I was astonished. This item was definitely not trash.

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You are Awesome and Brave and Tenacious

It is time for a confession:  I love to listen to Delilah, a syndicated radio host who for over 2 decades has played schmaltzy love songs along with inspirational pop tunes, sprinkled with her brand of tough love advice and wisdom.   The other evening, she was reading a letter from a listener and then said to the woman, “You are awesome and brave and tenacious.” 

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What’s Good? What’s Bad?

What’s Good? What’s Bad?

Let me tell you about my day last Friday.  My car had broken down over the previous weekend and could not be repaired, so I had to purchase a new one.  I had found exactly what I wanted over the internet, and I was driving to pick it up when I received a phone call from the salesman saying that another sales person had sold it to someone else.  I was very disappointed, of course, because it is hard to find a car with a manual transmission that isn’t a sports car (too small and just not me) or a pick-up (too large and just not me.)  But Jay called me back and said that his manager had worked it out and to come on down.  Phew.

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Have a Good Morning, and Be Well.

Have a Good Morning, and Be Well.

I was at the local drug store early in the morning – pre-dawn.  Not moving quickly or feeling particularly peppy, and no one else appeared to be, either.  But as I checked out, the clerk said with a smile, “Have a good morning and be well.”  It made me smile back.  I replied, “I know you have to say that, but it’s really nice that you do.”   The young woman said, “No, I like to.  If you’re happy, I’m happy.”

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