Hetty Irmer Barnett, LCSW-C, LICSW
The Thinking Woman’s Therapist

Hetty Irmer Barnett, LICSW, LCSW-C

Clinical Degree: Master of Arts in Social Service Administration, University of Chicago; Master of Arts in Theology, Lutheran School of Theology at Chicago

Expertise: Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy; Therapy with professional & entrepreneurial women; Couples & Relationship counseling; Mood disorders, Life transitions including parenthood, empty-nesting & divorce;  Healing and integrating trauma. 

IFS Certified: Yes

Availability: Tuesday through Friday, and televideo sessions for established clients.


I believe we are all on a spiritual journey, and that a core component of living is about learning and growing and expanding as our journeys unfold. And, I am passionately sympathetic about how hard this process can be, and how difficult it often is to be human!


My journey toward becoming a therapist begin while I was in graduate school. I had my first encounter with depression and anxiety and worked up the courage to seek help. I saw a psychiatrist for the first time, learned to manage my moods and how to be in a committed relationship. By the time I finished school, I knew my passion was to help others overcome their challenges to being all they were created to be. Since then, I’ve charted a path that’s allowed me to help others, especially women and couples, deal with issues similar to those I have struggled with and grown through.  

In 2012, I founded Four Corners Counseling & Well-being with the goal of creating a safe space for people to build healthy and thriving lives - that of mind, body, spirit, and relationships. My practice provides high-quality holistic psychotherapy and counseling services in a comfortable and professional setting.  During sessions, I invite clients to share openly and honestly about their personal journey, without any fear of judgment. My goal is to provide a safe, accepting environment, welcoming of all sexual, gender, cultural and spiritual orientations.  


I can help you identify and confidently respond to the challenges of your personal journey, and live the best version of yourself every day. I have developed expertise in mood disordersinterpersonal trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD); stressful life transitions and major life events; addiction recovery; and couples therapy. I especially enjoy working with professional women as “The Thinking Woman’s Therapist,” and with other therapists and healing professionals. I have developed a particular expertise in helping women discern and navigate separation and divorce. My background and master’s degree in theology, in addition to my master’s in social work, is appealing to many clients who appreciate spirituality and are attracted to the integration of spirituality and psychology.

I practice out of a strengths-based, mindfulness model of therapy called Internal Family Systems (IFS) — the fastest growing therapy modality in the U.S. I am a speaker, writer and teacher of IFS, and I offer that expertise to my clients. I love to see the transformation that occurs when clients begin to practice their life skills from a compassionate "Self-led" space. And I love to help clients integrate whole-hearted, wise and spiritual approaches into real life.

Providing exceptional psychotherapy to my clients is my vocation and in order to do that, I need to tend to myself with exceptional care of my mind, body, spirit and relationships — the four corners of a thriving life. I strive to do that one day at a time, and I encourage my clients to do the same.   

“If you wish to see a psychotherapist, try to find someone who is happy and who can communicate well with his or her spouse, children, friends and society” — Thich Nhat Hanh, Living Buddha, Living Christ

I am committed to becoming the person I was created to be, and to help you be who you are truly meant to be. I'm thrilled to have the practice of my dreams where I can offer you the help you need and deserve.

~ Hetty Irmer Barnett

In addition to having an MA from University of Chicago in social service administration, Hetty has a master’s degree in theology and post-graduate training in the integration of spirituality and clinical practice. She is certified in Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, colloquially known as “parts work,”  and also has advanced training in couples therapy. She has worked for years with women and men seeking more joy and confidence in life, and with couples yearning for a deeper connection and a happier relationship. Her strengths-based and mindfulness-focused approach is effective for addressing trauma, relationship and self-esteem issues. This approach focuses on developing a strong sense of self, which results in the ability to develop greater self-compassion, self-acceptance, and self-love.

What Clients are Saying...

“I’ve been to a lot of therapists, and Hetty has offered therapeutic services that I have not found elsewhere. She walked me through a technique for visualizing my emotions, for example, which was a huge breakthrough in processing painful experiences from my past.”
— Sarah, Arlington

“Although difficult to explain, I have felt that we worked as a team, with each of us leading in different ways. You helped me to become more of an ‘expert’ of myself, but simultaneously believed I was all along.”
— Jessica, Greenbelt

“My experience with Hetty has been really transformative. In a relatively short amount of time, I’ve made some great progress and feel a very positive difference in my life. The combination of her skills and experience with a gentle and caring style are very effective. I enjoy coming to therapy, and look forward to it!” — Erin, Silver Spring

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